I found a friend, and as a good mother, she had to speak of her three children. With her shiny eyes, she told me that she was proud that her twins had just started college, but when she spoke of her daughter, some tiny tears came out of her eyes. Then she told me with a sad voice: “Maria, I don’t know what to do with Cristy, she eats too much and because she is overweight she feels less than her friends”.
Her words touched me deeply, because when I was a teenager I was fat and felt bad. Soon I understood that her child had self-esteem problems, and she was only six years old.
In order for children to do whatever they want at every moment of their lives they must have a good self-esteem. As a pa-rent you are responsible for this. If a child learns the value of self love, this child will turn out to be an emotionally healthy adult: with no complexes or any behavior issues. Here, you will have some advice to help you develop an excellent self esteem on your child.
• Watch out with what you say! They hear everything, even when it’s a joke. If you say: how fat you are! Or, are you dumb?, you can be sure that they believe that they are that.
• Hugs and kisses. Tell them how much you love them everyday. Also, spend time with them, helping them do their home work is not enough. Ride bikes together, color, or watch your favorite TV show.
• Explain what they must do instead of saying NO. This will make their self esteem better and it will prepare them to do what you ask them. Instead of saying: “don’t scream”, tell them: “lower your voice”. Instead of saying “Don’t slam the door” explain: “Close the door carefully”.
• Make them feel that they are important. Since children turn two years old, they can have small responsibilities like picking up their toys, and putting their dirty clothes in place. Children who help their parents feel important and appreciated.
• Don’t say anything negative about your self. If they hear a mother that’s always wining or parents who eat all day and never exercise they will imitate them.
That’s why I told my friend that if she wanted her little girl to
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